By Kimberly Harris ‘15
It is believed that a frog will jump out of a pot of boiling water, but if you place him in a pot and turn it up a little at a time, and he will stay until he is boiled to death. In the same way, abusive relationships don’t usually start out with knockout blows and hospital visits. After the initial “lovey-dovey” phase, subtle hints of controlling behavior begin to creep in. After this, outbursts of anger usually follow with apologizing to placate (eg/ “It will never happen again”). If the relationship is allowed to fester, then classic abusive behavior can be observed. This is a continuous cycle of destruction that can only end if the injured individual chooses to make it stop.